Centering My Focus

There have been many things vying for my attention recently, and thus driving my stress level up a bit.

New job. Kids’ schedules. New ventures. 7.

So as I rushed through my morning after working out and found myself all wound up already for the day, I realized I needed to re-center myself and get my focus back in the right place.

I chose some music to help me do that as I spent time with the Lord.

Here is one of the songs that I used to re-center this morning.

If you are having a “Monday” and finding it hard to be centered properly, I encourage you to find a way to re-center your focus on what really matters. It will make a huge impact on your day and the people around you.

Ashes to Ashes

Today is Ash Wednesday. It marks the start of the 40-day period known as Lent that leads to Easter Sunday. It is typically a time of prayer and fasting and represents the 40 days that Jesus spent fasting in the wilderness before beginning His earthly ministry.

On Ash Wednesday, ashes (from the palms used the previous Palm Sunday) are placed in the shape of a cross on the forehead of believers. During the application of the ashes, the priest, minister, or assigned lay leader will give these words:

Remember that thou art dust, and to dust thou shalt return. (Genesis 3:19)

Repent, and believe the Gospel. (Mark 1:15).

It is a time of confession and repentance, a time of remembering just how much God has done for us so that we might be saved.

I visited a friend of mine today to receive the ashes and this is one of the prayers that she shared with me:

O Lord my God, You know me better than I know myself. And I come before you now, admitting my deep need of You, for I am lost without your grace. Search me, O God, and know my heart, test me and know my troubled thoughts. Give me true repentance. Forgive me all my wrongs. Transform me by Your Spirit to live for You each day, to love and serve others, and, through the grace of Jesus Christ my Lord, to come at last to heaven. Amen.

I encourage you to spend some time today praying this prayer, or one like it. And I share with you these Words of Assurance and Pardon:

Hear the Good News. The LORD, our God, is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love (Joel 2:13). God hears the earnest cries of the repentant and forgives our sins. Return to the Lord your God. Turn toward our God in the confidence that, through Jesus Christ, your sins are forgiven.

Amen.

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Wrecking in Progress

Have you ever seen those used-to-be-beautiful homes that have fallen into disrepair and you dream about how awesome it would be if someone would fix them up and bring them back to their former glory? Have you ever been one of those fix-em-up people? If you have ever been part of renovation of any kind you know that in order to bring things back to former glory (or new glory), most of the time there has to be some kind of demolition first. You may have to tear out the old plaster and lathe walls. You may have to remove the old stained and chipped vanity. You might have to pull out the old pipes or wires. And in the process you end up with a much bigger mess than you started with.

But the mess is necessary. It has to be done. You can’t get new while holding on to the old.

In the next couple of weeks, we are going to enter the season of Lent. This is the time in the church calendar leading up to Easter. It is a time of preparation. It is a time to remember the 40 days that Christ spent in the wilderness fasting and being tempted by Satan before beginning His ministry on Earth.

For this reason, I find it quite coincidental or rather, “God-incidental” that my Bible Study girls and I decided to go through the study, The 7 Experiment: Staging Your Own Mutiny Against Excess, by Jen Hatmaker. It is based on her book, 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess.

In less than 14 pages, I was already to the point of being wrecked. The Lord was helping me to see some areas in which I have some work that needs to be done, some tearing out that needs to happen to make room for building back up.

I can tell it is going to be painful. I can tell that I am going to get defensive about certain things that I don’t want to have ripped out because I like them just the way they are. But I can also tell that it is work that is needed and necessary in order to make room for more of Jesus and His ways to take over in my life.

So let the wrecking begin.

I would challenge you to pick up this book, or another one that rocks your world a bit, as we enter this season of Lent. Let some wrecking happen in your life as well, so God can do some rebuilding.

Princesses Galore

This weekend I was privileged to be one of the 25,000 runners at the Walt Disney World Princess Half-Marathon. It was my 12th half marathon since I started running in 2007. It was wonderful. The weather was hot, but overcast so the sun didn’t make it unbearable. We dressed in our best princess attire and had so much fun!

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One of the best moments of the race was as we exited Cinderella’s castle and were headed out of Magic Kingdom and I found myself overwhelmed to the point of tears as I pulled out my phone and typed this note:

As a Daughter of the King, and thus a true princess, I am overwhelmed as I see His princesses of all shapes, sizes, colors, economic classes, and more running, walking, being healthy, challenging themselves, smiling, struggling, loving themselves and one another, giving encouragement and just enjoying the gift that is life and health.

We all ran that race for different reasons, we all had a different experience, we all come from different backgrounds, but there is something beautiful about the gathering of God’s creation to celebrate and encourage one another through a challenge.

And this is how we should be approaching life as well. Celebrating it. Building one another up. Helping one another along. Enjoying it. Watching the sights and people around us. Embracing it. Crying as we cross certain “finish lines” together. Truly living in community.

Are you living in community? You need to be. Find one. Make one. You won’t be sorry.

Tidbits

I have been reading a book called Evolving in Monkey Town by Rachel Held Evans, a story of her “journey from certainty to faith,” and I can’t put it down. I have been reading Rachel’s blog for quite some time, and resonate with much of what she writes, so when she made an appearance at Greenville College recently, I was quick to make sure my schedule allowed me to go and hear her speak. There have been so many tidbits of great insight and information that I have encountered, I thought I would share a few of my favorites with you.

  • Faith isn’t faith if you are certain. There has to be an element of doubt for faith to truly be faith.
  • Fake it ’til you make it – keep choosing to believe even when you don’t feel it and doubt is threatening to speak louder than faith.
  • We could be wrong. God may need to change our minds, so we need to make sure we hold on to our belief with an open hand rather than a tightly closed fist.
  • “This is why I try to keep an open mind about the monkeys, and it’s why I consider myself an evolutionist–not necessarily of the scientific variety but of the faith variety. Just as living organisms are said to evolve over  time, so faith evolves, on both a personal and a collective level. Spiritual evolution explains why Christianity has thrived while other ancient religions have perished. It explains why our brothers and sisters in rural Zimbabwe and those in the Greek Orthodox Church can worship the same God but in much different ways. Christianity never could have survived the ebb and flow of time, much less its own worldwide expansion, had God not created it with the innate ability to adapt to changing environments. The same versatility that allowed Paul to become all things to all people applies to the church collectively. The ability of the body of Christ to change–to grow fins when it needs to swim and wings when it needs to fly–has preserved it for over two thousand years, despite countless predictions of its imminent demise.”
  • “Evolution means letting go of our false fundamentals so that God can get into those shadowy places we’re not sure we want him to be. It means being okay with being wrong, okay with not having all the answers, okay with never being finished.”
  • “…I was taught that the Bible served as a guidebook for Christian dating and marriage, but no one ever suggested that my father had the right to sell me to the highest bidder or to take multiple wives, like Abraham. Homosexuality was preached against incessantly, but little was said of gluttony or greed. We decried the death of each aborted baby as a violation of the sanctity of human life, but shrugged off the deaths of Iraqi children as expected collateral damage in a war against evil. We celebrated archeological finds that supported the historical claims of the Bible yet discounted massive amounts of scientific evidence in support of an old earth.”
  • “…Jesus rarely framed discipleship in terms of intellectual assent to a set of propositional statements. he didn’t walk new converts down the Romans Road or ask Peter to draft a doctrinal statement before giving him the keys to the kingdom. His method of evangelism varied from person to person and generally involved a dramatic change of lifestyle rather than a simple change of mind. To Jesus, “by faith alone” did not mean “by belief alone.” To Jesus, faith was invariably linked to obedience.”
  • “Being a Christian, it seemed, isn’t about agreeing to a certain way; it is about embodying a certain way. It is about living as an incarnation of Jesus, as Jesus lived as an incarnation of God. It is about being Jesus…in tennis shoes.”
  • “Some Christians are more offended by the idea of everyone going to heaven than by the idea of everyone going to hell.”
  • “Dan always says that as soon as you think you’ve got God figured out, you can bet on the fact that you’re wrong.”
  • “‘We do know that no person can be saved except through Christ,’ [C.S. Lewis] wrote in Mere Christianity. ‘We do not know that only those who know Him can be saved by Him.'”
  • “We are not saved by information. We are saved by restored relationship with God, which might look a little different from person to person, culture to culture, time to time.”
  • “When we require that all people must say the same words or subscribe to the same creeds in order to experience God, we underestimate the scope and power of God’s activity in the world…From the first covenant with Abraham to the vision of John at Patmos, salvation has always been described in terms of a blessing for the entire world, not just and exclusive privilege for a select group of people. The “election,” first of Israel and then of the church, is not a spiritual condition but a vocational calling, a calling to serve the rest of the world, inviting others to join the kingdom of God.”
  • “All I know is that if the God of the Bible is true, he loves his creation and will do whatever it takes to restore it.”
  • “We’ve got our way of dealing fairly with our enemies, and God has his. Our way involves retaliation and punishment; his way involves forgiveness. Our way involves equal justice; his way involves disproportionate grace. our way is to make someone pay with blood; his way is to bleed. Even when Jesus hung on the cross, when God had been insulted to the highest degree imaginable, left naked, humiliated, beaten and bruised, he said, ‘Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.'”
  • “God’s ways are higher than our ways not because he is less compassionate than we are but because he is more compassionate than we can ever imagine.”
  • “In India, I was introduced to the kingdom of heaven–not as it exists in some future state but as it exists in the here and now, where the hungry are fed with both physical and spiritual bread, where the sick are saved from both their diseases and their sins, where an illiterate widow taught me more about faith than any theologian ever could, and where children from the slums sing with God. In India, I learned that the gospel is still special. Jesus still matters and can make a difference in people’s lives. I guess that’s close enough to spiritual awakening.”
  • “I’m afraid that just as wealth and privilege can be a stumbling block on the path to the gospel, theological expertise and piety can also get in the way of the kingdom.”
  • “When we cling to our beliefs as children cling to their favorite toys, it is hard for Jesus to take us by the hand and lead us somewhere new.”
  • “Jesus drank wine with sexual deviants. He committed major social taboos. he spent a lot of time among contagious people, crazy people, uneducated people, and smelly people. His famous cousin wore camel-hair and ate locusts and honey. Those most familiar with Scripture called his views heretical, and his own family questioned his sanity. Jesus introduced new teachings not found in the Scriptures and claimed his authority came directly from God. he asked his disciples to sell all their “blessings” and follow him, when doing so could get them excommunicated from the faith or even killed. He was too liberal, too radical, and too demanding. To tell you the truth, I’m not sure that I would have followed the guy, and that really scares me sometimes.”
  • “In India, I learned that among Hindus, the goal of reincarnation is to be reborn into nobler circumstances. And in India, I learned that in the kingdom of God, the goal is to reborn into humbler ones.”
  • “‘God’s kingdom in the preaching of Jesus refers not to postmortem destiny, not to our escape from this world into another one, but God’s sovereign rule coming ‘on earth as it is in heaven.’…heaven, in the Bible, is not a future destiny but the other, hidden dimension of our ordinary life–God’s dimension, if you like. God made heaven and earth; at the last he will remake both and join them together forever.’ According to [N.T.] Wright, participants in the early church understood that the ultimate goal wasn’t to die, leave their bodies behind, and float around like ghosts in heaven forever but rather to embody, anticipate, and work toward a new kingdom.”
  • “Perhaps being a Christian isn’t about experiencing the kingdom of heaven someday but about experiencing the kingdom of heaven every day.”
  • “Sometimes when I want to put myself in [my gay and Christian friend] Adele’s shoes, I imagine an alternate universe in which Christians have chosen a different biblical condemnation upon which to fixate, such as women uncovering their heads or people getting tattoos. I imagine TV preachers claiming that 9/11 happened as a result of God’s wrath on the gossipers and the greedy, and churches raising funds to support an amendment to the constitution making remarriage illegal for people who are divorced. I imagine people carrying signs that say ‘God Hates Gluttons’ or ‘Stone Disobedient Children,’ and I think to myself, Boy, I’m glad we didn’t pick ‘lifestyle sins’ like materialism or judgmentalism to obsess about, because if we had, I’d totally be screwed.”

I am not quite finished with the book, but as you can see, it is having a profound impact on my way of thinking. I hope you won’t just read my quotes and forget about it, but that you will really think about these things, pick up the book, pick up your Bible, and search out what it means to really follow Jesus in the way that He intended.

Beyond

Ephesians 3:20 says this:

God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us. (The Message)

Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, (NIV)

Glory to God, who is able to do far beyond all that we could ask or imagine by his power at work within us; (CEB)

Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, (KJV)

(Italics Mine)

I am sitting here today in awe of this God I serve who continues to do beyond all I could ask or imagine.

From hearing my dreams and desires, to providing for our needs, from comforting us in times of sorrow, to fulfilling his promises, God is good.

Sometimes while we are waiting for God’s purposes to be revealed and fulfilled, things look bleak. But in those moments we have a choice, rely on Him and His promises, or rely on ourselves. But the thing is, between the two options, God is the only one with a proven track record.

Once again in our lives God has proven Himself faithful. He has not only brought about a change that we could never have anticipated, He has brought it about in a way that addresses multiple desires that He has placed in my heart.

Beyond all that I could have asked or imagined.

That doesn’t mean there isn’t still work for Him to do, because there is, but I can’t and won’t be anxious about it because I have seen, yet again, how He loves us and gives us what is best for us at the exact right time.

If you are waiting for God to fulfill His promises to you, to give you the desires that He has placed in your heart, don’t give up. Don’t try to take things into your own hands. Just remember these verses, He can and will do beyond all you can ask or imagine. Keep believing.

Overwhelmed

I hope you are in on it.

What is “it,” you ask?

“It” is what God is doing.

He’s up to something.

Something good.

He is calling His people to draw near to Him and hear His voice.

He is stirring up His people to step out in faith and follow His leading.

Even when it is scary.

Even when there are questions about what, when, where and how, because we already know the why.

The why is simple. We love God and we love people.

That is the underlying reason for everything we do.

That has to be the underlying reason.

And as I talk to people, I see that underlying reason in everything they do.

The thing is, when that is the foundation of your action, you can’t help but be overwhelmed with this love that is flowing out of you, and you can’t help but follow where the Lord leads.

There are times that the prospect of where we are heading may feel overwhelming, but really it’s not because God’s the one working it out, we are just partnering with Him as He works.

I hope you are in on it.

Overwhelming as it is.

Let’s run!

Hebrews 12:1-2

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Italics mine.)

If…Then

I spent the entire day watching a conference that I was unable to attend in Austin, Texas this weekend. I am grateful for technology and for the idea to include people all around the world by streaming the conference and leaving it up through midnight two days later.

The conference was called IF:Gathering.

If you have ever attended a conference, you know that by the end of the conference, you are typically on information overload, and this one was no different.

But the information was so good! I took page after page of notes! I was challenged. I was enlightened. I was moved. I was encouraged.

One of the questions being asked is this: If our God is real, then what does that mean for us, how does it change our lives and the lives of those around us.

There are so many ways in which the reality of our God should be impacting our lives. We shouldn’t be able to sit in our comfortable houses, with our favorite toys, eating our rich foods and be content with that. We shouldn’t be able to spend all of our time with those who look, act, and believe just like us and think that is okay.

If our God is real, and if He has truly impacted our lives, we should be serving Him in ways that are outside of our comfort zone. We should be doing things that we don’t fully know how to do. We should be caring for people for whom we don’t fully know how to care. We should be taking steps out onto the water trusting that God will hold up our feet and not let us drown as long as our eyes are on Him.

We should be wrecked if we are trying to live a comfortable life, because of the knowledge that we aren’t fully devoted to serving the One who gave His life for our sin and rose from the dead so that we can live.

So I ask you, if your God is real, how does that play out in your life?

It Can Be Done

Recently, I met with a friend who is moving in the direction of adopting a vegan diet, but her biggest hurdle is her family. She has two young children and a “meat and potatoes” husband. She knows I have a similar situation and she wondered how I manage to maintain a vegan diet without forcing it on my family, but also without fixing two meals at every single mealtime.

My words to her were this, “It can be done.”

Is it easy? Not always. Do you sometimes make two meals? Sure. Does your family complain? They are human.

Here are some tips that I gave her:

  • You know your family and know what types of food they like. When you are looking for new recipes to try, find those with similar flavors and ingredients that just leave out the meat, dairy and eggs.
  • Make substitutions in familiar recipes. Use lentils or beans in place of meat. Use flax eggs in place of real eggs. Use almond milk in place of regular milk.
  • Have taco night (or whatever is a favorite night for your family) and make their taco filling, but also make a vegan taco filling for you. They may try it and like it, but even if they don’t, it is okay.
  • Make spaghetti and just use regular tomato sauce, but have meatballs to add to theirs.
  • When a recipe makes a lot and you have leftovers, throw some in the freezer to pull out for you next time they want to have meatloaf and mashed potatoes for dinner. I do this with soups quite often.
  • Establish “Meatless Mondays” where you can expose your family to new recipes.
  • Use your main dish as a side dish for their dinner.
  • I make a southwestern skillet that I make in two pans, one I add chicken to and one I don’t.
  • If I want to try a recipe I know my family won’t like, I will often make enough of the previous night’s meal so they can eat leftovers while I try the new recipe. Sometimes I can even get them to try it, too!
  • Keep quick things on hand, like Dr. Praeger’s California Veggie Burgers for when your family wants to grill burgers so you have an option as well.
  • Most of all, be flexible and have patience. Your family isn’t the one making this decision so don’t force it on them. Help them to grow and understand your choice, while offering other options and teaching them about nutrition along the way.

These tips are true for any kind of dietary change, not just those looking to adopt a vegan lifestyle. Don’t look at the mountain in front of you and say it is too hard to climb because your family isn’t ready to climb to the top with you right now. You can still do it. You just have to approach it in a different way. It can be done.

 

 

 

It’s Not Just What You Say…It’s How You Say It

There is a reason that electronic communication backfires when it comes to communicating big issues – there is no context of the non-verbal cues we use to communicate. You can’t see facial expression. You can’t hear voice inflection. You can’t see body posture.

When we communicate using just the typed word and not the spoken word, we are missing part of what is being communicated.

And let’s be honest, the prevalence of electronic communication has emboldened us to say things to one another that we would never say face to face.

The political warfare, belief judgment, and hate speeches waged on Facebook would never happen at a dinner table conversation. And often, these “conversations” begin with one person giving a seemingly innocuous comment, with the purpose of intelligent debate, but without the important non-verbal cues, and even more important relationship factor, these conversations become divisive and hurtful.

I think that this freedom of speaking without context and relationship has spilled over into our face-to-face conversations as well. We don’t think before we speak. We assume that our opinion needs to be voiced and heard by everyone. We don’t think about how our words have the power to hurt and to heal.

But that is the thing. Our words have the power to hurt and to heal. And we need to be mindful of that every time we speak – whether with spoken words or typed ones. We need to be aware of how our words are coming across – both verbally and non-verbally. We need to be aware that people will carry our words with them – both hurtful and healing.

I want to make sure that the words I speak are always edifying and building up. It is hard. Sometimes I fail. But I want what people take away from me to be healing and uplifting. I don’t want them to carry away words that tear them down and hurt them.

As you speak today – at work, in your family, through e-mail, on social media, via text – speak words of healing, hope, health, and edification. And if possible, do as much in person as you can, it makes a difference.