Tending Your Garden

I have been reading Made to Crave by Lysa TerKeurst over the last couple of weeks. It is a great book and I am really enjoying it. Early on, I was particularly impacted by this chapter (see pictures below) as it talks about the necessity of tending a garden if you want to have a beautiful one. I thought I would share Lysa’s thoughts with you today. Whether it is gardening, parenting, weight loss, exercise, relationships or something else, they all require work. They all require tending. They all require something of us if we are to be successful. Choose to be successful. Choose to tend your garden, whatever that may be for you.

 

There’s No Going Back

Life has been absolutely crazy lately. At least school-year busyness is part of a routine. Summer busyness has no routine. It is akin to flat-out chaos. Family Camp one week. Ty at Trailblazer Camp the next week. Ty at Panther Basketball Academy and Anne at Young Teen Camp this week. Me helping with Panther Academy. Mike working. Me working. Ty playing baseball two and three nights a week. Me trying to figure out how and when to exercise, clean house, cook, and do laundry. Don’t get me wrong, it is fun. But it is tiring to be out of the routine that is the other nine months of the year.

With both the kids at camp this week, I have had a couple of people comment on the fact that I am “kidless” for the week, and what was I going to do with my time. And while alone time is nice occasionally, I miss them something terrible when they are gone. I was almost in tears of joy just to have Ty sleeping on the floor of my office this afternoon, knowing he was with me and not somewhere else under the care of someone else. And then that made me miss Anne. And she won’t be home for a couple of more days.

There was a time before kids. There was a time when I had a life outside of my kids. There was a time when I enjoyed that independence and ability to do whatever, whenever.

But there’s no going back to that time. And I wouldn’t want to. I love my kids. I love being with them. I love having fun with them. I love teaching them. I even love the hard moments with them, because that means there is growth happening (probably on my part as much as theirs).

So, I am now going to finish this post so I can go snuggle up with my boy. ๐Ÿ™‚

Don’t forget to take time to enjoy your kids TODAY!!!

Monday Music 4

Last night my family and I went to see the Springfield Muni production of Joseph and the Technicolor Dream Coat. I saw this show with my husband (who doesn’t do musicals – but loved this one) about 10 years ago and have loved it ever since. So when we found out not only that it was in Springfield, but that a couple of our friends were in it, one of them playing Joseph, we had to go. We got rained out on Saturday, so we had to go back on Sunday, but it was well worth two trips to Springfield.

One of my favorite songs from the show is “Close Every Door,” and as I listened again last night, I was reminded why. It is a great reminder that life isn’t about us when we live for Christ. It isn’t about our happiness or our life. It isn’t about what our circumstances look like. It is about the fact that we have been promised more than this life can offer. And our God is faithful to fulfill His promises.

I thought I would share the song with you today. It’s not Owen singing it, but I guess Donny Osmond will do. ๐Ÿ™‚

Close Every Door

Close every door to me, hide all the world from me
Bar all the windows and shut out the light
Do what you want with me, hate me and laugh at me
Darken my daytime and torture my night

If my life were important I
Would ask will I live or die
But I know the answers lie far from this world

Close every door to me, keep those I love from me
Children of Israel are never alone
For I know I shall find my own peace of mind
For I have been promised a land of my own.

CHILDREN:

Close every door to me, hide all the world from me
Bar all the windows and shut out the light

La la la la la la (REPEAT)

JOSEPH
Just give me a number instead of my name
Forget all about me and let me decay
I do not matter
I’m only one person
Destroy me completely then throw me away

If my life were important I
Would ask will I live or die
But I know the answers lie far from this world

Close every door to me keep those I love from me
Children of Israel are never alone
For we know we shall find our own peace of mind
For we have been promised a land of our own

Battling the Blahs

If I am perfectly honest, today I don’t have much. I have been kind of blah for the last few days. Maybe it is coming home from camp. Maybe it is that my parents just left for Alabama for another couple of months. Maybe it is that life has been too busy. Or maybe it is a combination of all of that and more, or something else altogether.

But I was reminded this week of a way to beat those blahs by a friend of mine who called and left a message on my voice mail at work. He said that every morning he tries to start the day off by thanking the Lord for His presence. He then asks the Lord to help him remember people who have been a special encouragement or blessing to him. That particular day he remembered something specific that I had done for him that helped him when he was feeling pretty blah himself, so he called to tell me thank you for that action and those words that I had shared with him. Needless to say, I was blessed and I saved that message to listen to occasionally.

So that is my challenge for me and for you today. Thank the Lord for His presence. Then ask Him to help you remember someone who has been a special encouragement or blessing to you. It could be something that happened yesterday, last week, or last year. But don’t stop there. Call that person. Send them an e-mail. Write them a note of thanks. Do something to acknowledge the fact that they are a special gift from God to you.

I bet when you do that, the blahs will disappear.

Survived or Thrived?

So, last week the kids and I (with an occasional visit from Mike) spent the week at Durley Family Camp. (Yes, I had planned to re-post a couple of my favorite blog posts, but my phone, which was my only access to my blog, wouldn’t let me post things that had already been posted. Sorry!)

On Saturday evening we moved into our cabin and stayed there until the following Saturday morning. We had breakfast, lunch, and dinner provided for us, as well as activities and amazing times of worship. And other than my phone, which I used sparingly, there were NO ELECTRONICS. And we survived. I would even say we thrived without them. The kids played outside most of every day. And even when they were inside they were playing air hockey, carpet ball, and pool. We had actual conversations with our friends – face to face. There was no whining because I said no to DS games, Wii games, television, iPad, etc. No one responded to me with a “just a minute, I need to finish this level” when I asked them to do something. It was amazing. And I loved it.

And within an hour of moving back home they were both asking to watch TV, play on my iPad and play the DS. And then whined when I said no and told them to go play outside.

What is it about these devices that draws us in the minute we know they are available to us? How is it we can survive (and even thrive) for an entire week without them, but when we are back in our “normal” routine, we immediately want them again?

We have a rule in our house that the kids cannot play DS or Wii during the week (even in summer). Friday night through Sunday evenings are the only allowable times, and even then it isn’t allowable for the whole time – just portions of it and they have to ask before doing it. I would like to make the same rule with TV, but since that is Mike’s electronic of choice, that is an uphill battle for me.

But I am as guilty as the rest when it comes to my phone and iPad.

So, what is a mother and fellow electronic junkie to do?

I guess it starts with me. I guess I need to limit myself more. I guess I need to make better choices with my time so my kids see me as an example. That means when I am tired and feel like doing nothing but playing solitaire on my iPad, I should choose to play a card game with the kids instead.

(This is not where I saw this blog post going. Why does it always come back to me and my choices?)

How is it in your family? Could you survive a week without electronics?

Summer Nights

I love summer. I love it for all the normal reasons – warm (hot!) weather, pools, sun, extra daylight hours, etc.

But this week I am loving it because instead of putting my kids in bed and then putting myself in bed, my kids have been snuggling up with me in bed for a while before they move on to their own beds. They don’t have to get up early, so they don’t have to go to bed early. It is so nice to have them right beside me reading, watching a movie, brushing my hair, or just sitting there. And I love falling asleep with them there. They are old enough now to move to their beds after I fall asleep to make room for Daddy.

What a wonderful gift! And starting Saturday night, the three of us get to move into our cabin at Family Camp for a week of sleepovers! (Daddy has to workย  and we’ll miss him, but we’ll muddle through.) It is one of our favorite weeks of the year. Meals with friends. Morning and evening worship. Waterfront fun. Late evening activities – games for kids, party tent and cards for the adults. We get to enjoy more summer nights together.

What are some of the ways that you enjoy your family during the summer that you can’t get away with during the school year?

(P.S. Since I am out at camp next week, I will not be posting any new material and will instead re-post a couple of my favorite posts. Enjoy!)

Love Makes People Do…

If you grew up going to church, you have probably listened to “The Music Machine” a time or two. In my case, probably two thousand or more. I still own it on vinyl. And I bought it on CD for my kids a few years back. If you aren’t familiar with it, it is the story of two kids who wake up in “Agapeland” and meet the conductor who shows them this fabulous machine, “put something in it and a song comes out.” After trying a few things like whistles, strings, and a smile, they put in the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. This morning, I have the song “Love” from that album going around in my head. I can’t find a video for you, but the lyrics to that song are:

Love, love, love makes people happy
Love, love, love makes people free
Love makes people do the things they know they ought to do
Love is doing things for you and me

Love love, love, love makes people friendly
Love love, love, love makes people kind
Love makes people do the things they know they ought to do
Love is helping those who fall behind

We need more love
It’s easy to see
We need God’s love
That’s the way it should be

Love, love, love makes people thankful
Love, love, love makes people share
Love makes people do the things they know they ought to do
Love is showing others that you care

We need more love
It’s easy to see
We need God’s love
That’s the way it should be

Love, love, love makes people happy
Love, love, love makes people free
Love makes people do the things they know they ought to do
Love is doing things for you and me
Love makes people do the things they know they ought to do
Love is doing things for you and me

I think the reason I am singing this song today is because I have been reading I John this week and I am pretty sure every other sentence is about love and Christ’s love and what that should look like in our lives. This love is not self-seeking, but self-sacrificing. This love is the indicator of our relationship with Christ.

In addition to reading I John this week, my friend and I finished John Ortberg’s book, The Me I Want to Be and in the last chapter he tells the story of Evelyn Brand, a woman who embodied the love of Christ in all she did for her whole life. Here is her story as told in the book:

…When she was a young woman she felt called by God to go to India. As a single woman in 1909, a calling like that required a truckload of faith and an equal amount of determination. She married a young man named Jessie and together they began a ministry to people in rural India, bringing education and medical supplies, and building roads to reduce the isolation of the poor.

Early in their ministry they went seven years without a single convert, but then a priest of a local tribal religion developed a fever and grew deathly ill. Nobody else would go near him, but Evelyn and Jessie nursed him as he was dying. He said, This God, Jesus, must be the true God because only Jessie and Evelyn will care for me in my dying.

The priest gave his children to them to care for after he died — and that became a spiritual turning point in that part of the world. People began to examine the life and teachings of Jesus, and in increasing numbers began to follow him. Evelyn and Jessie had thirteen years of productive service, then Jessie died. By this time, Evelyn was fifty years old, and everyone expected her to return to her home in England. But she would not do it…

She was known and loved for miles around as “Granny Brand,” and she stayed another twenty years under the mission board she had served so faithfully. Her son, Paul, came over when she was seventy years old, and this is what he said about his mom: “This is how to grow old. Allow everything else to fall away until those around you see only love.”

…She had spent her life in India, including twenty years of widowhood, and at age seventy she received word from her home mission office in England that they were not going to give her another five-year term. They felt that she was simply getting too old.

But she was also stubborn.

A party was held to celebrate her time in India, and everyone there cheered her on. “Have a good trip back home,” they all said.

“I’ll tell you a little secret,” she announced. “I’m not going back home. I’m staying in India.”

Evelyn had a little shack built with some resources that she had smuggled in. Then she bought a pony to get around the mountains, and this septuagenarian would ride from village to village on horseback to tell people about Jesus. She did that for five years on her own. One day, at seventy-five years old, she fell off and broke her hip. Her son, Paul Brand, the eminent doctor, said to her, “Mom, you had a great run. God’s used you. It’s time to turn it over now. You go on back home.”

“I am not going back home,” she said…She spent another eighteen years traveling from one village to another on horseback. Falls, concussions, sicknesses, and aging could not stop her. Finally, when she hit ninety-three years old, she could not ride horseback any more. so the men in these villages–because they loved Granny Brand so much–put her on a stretcher and carried her from one village to another. She lived two more years and gave those years as a gift, carried on a stretcher, to help the poorest of the poor. She died, but she never retired. She just graduated.

This is an amazing story to me. Not just because Granny Brand loved God and loved people so much that she spent her life – in sickness and in health – telling people about Him, but the fact that her love for the people and for God had been multiplied and that translated into people loving God, her, and others so much that they were willing to carry her around on a stretcher for two years so she could continue to love people enough to tell them about Jesus.

“Love makes people do, the things they know they ought to do…”

We need God’s love to invade our souls that much. We need to show God’s love in extravagant ways. People need to see nothing but God’s love shining through us.

I want to be like Granny Brand. I want to have that kind of love for Jesus.

How about you?

Miscellaneous Musings 3

My head is all over the place today and I can’t seem to come up with a whole blog’s worth of any one idea. That means that you get a glimpse into my head today.

  1. School is out! Report cards were picked up this morning. I have been thinking for weeks about the plan that I need to come up with for my kids and what they will do every day now that they are hanging at home. I have ideas about time for cleaning, reading, Summer Bridge books, games, cooking, experiments, etc., and yet, today has come (and nearly gone) and I still have nothing down on paper (although I do have some great ideas pinned on Pinterest). What are your kids doing this summer? Anything I can incorporate into my plan – if and when I get to typing it out?
  2. Tonight is the last night of “craziness” that has been going on in our house for the last four weeks. I am so looking forward to actually being able to cook real meals for my family again beginning tomorrow evening. Got any good, healthy recipes for me to try?
  3. Sometimes all you need is good food, good conversation and a good pedicure with a good friend and life gains all kinds of perspective. There is something about sitting in a massaging chair with someone working on your feet for an hour or so that energizes your body. And then to sit over a meal, talking to a friend on a deep level about life – from fears to dreams to desires to failures – and knowing that they not only are listening to your words, but hearing your heart as well, energizes your soul. If you haven’t done something along those lines lately, take the time – make the time – to do so.
  4. I love new ideas. I love thinking about them. I love planning out their execution. I love processing the details. I love doing the research to make it happen. And I even love making it happen. But there is always a point at which I get overwhelmed at all that will have to be done to make it happen. That’s where I am at in a project right now. The hardest part is starting. So I guess I better push through those overwhelming feelings and start.
  5. And just in case you wondered: 80 minutes of intense yoga, followed by a hilly bike ride, then an 11 mile run the next day, and another bike ride the day after that really makes for angry legs – even if you did just run a marathon a month ago.

Have a wonderful day, and may your head be less all over the place than mine today!!

Here I Go Again – Not on My Own

Last night was the 2012 kick-off for the Biggest Loser competition in Greenville. If you have read my blog over the last year, you know that the Bacon Lovers (Anonymous) team that I was a part of last year won the competition. We were slightly competitive.

Well, even though I didn’t plan on it, I have decided to be part of a team again this year. There are three of us from last year’s team returning, with some new blood as well. We are calling ourselves Sizzlean. A leaner form of bacon. (Remember that product from the 80’s?)

So, if i didn’t plan on doing this, (and maybe even didn’t want to), why am I?

Because losing weight, and even maintaining weight is hard. Staying motivated to eat well is hard. And doing it on your own with no motivation, encouragement or accountability is hard. Here is what I wrote in my journal last night:

So, once again, I am teaming up with people who are like-minded and ready to go. We aren’t going to try to be super competitive like we were last year, but we are going to try to cement the changes we made last year into our lives for good. And I am hoping to finish losing what I have left to lose.

What do you need to do that you can’t do on your own and how are you going to do it?

The World on My Shoulders

As someone who struggles with depression, I often deal with what I call “heavy” days. Those days are the ones where I feel down, pensive, like the walls are closing in, like the world is literally resting on my shoulders and I can’t lift it off. Sometimes those feelings have no discernible source. It begins and I can’t tell why and it is really hard to reverse.

Other days there are what I would call internal reasons for those feelings. A bad day of eating. Missing a run. A fight with my husband. Frustration with my kids (or myself for how I dealt with the kids). A bad day at work. These things may or may not be in my control to change, but at least I can pinpoint what is going on and attempt to turn it around.

Then there are days when I feel heavy about things I can’t fix or change quickly (or even at all if it is just me). Those societal things that just crush me. Hatred. Injustice. Judgmental people. Poverty. Bigotry. Racism. Sexism. Oppression. Division. Pride. Superiority. An “I am right and you are wrong” or “God’s on my side” mentality.

And while I know that all of those things really need to be addressed somehow, the only way for me to turn any of this around and be lifted back up out of my funk, is to remember that I am loved, and that love saves me. Daily.

It saves you, too.

Saved by Love
Amy Grant

Laura loves her little family,
And she’s the kind of woman who loves them with her life.
But sometimes in the evening,
When the world rests on her shoulders
With four walls closing in,
She’ll close her eyes.

Oh

It’s not like she misses being younger,
Though she never was in Vogue magazine or on TV;
Her husband loves her dearly,
And the morning shows her clearly,
Kisses her little baby girl.
Laura, she’s the queen of the world.

Can’t imagine ever leaving now,
Now that she’s been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love.
Listen to her quiet heart singing loud.
Laura, she’s been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love.
I know that she’s been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love.
Saved by love.

There’s nothing quite like my family’s love to warm me,
And nothing short of death’s gonna ever leave me cold.
Well, still at times it’s lonely,
But through it all it only
Makes me love Jesus more,
And this is what He came here for.

I can’t imagine ever leaving now.
Now that I’ve been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love.
He’s gone and turned my crazy world back around,
And I’ve been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love.
I know that I’ve been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love

Oh, I’m never leaving now,
Now that I’ve been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love.
He’s gone and turned my crazy world back around,
And I’ve been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love.
Amy, she’s been saved by love,
Saved by love, saved by love
Saved by love.

I’m saved by love.

That’s right.
And nothing I can say,
Nothing I can do, nothing I can say.

We’re all just saved by love.
Nothing you can say, nothing you can do.
Only love can say, only love can do,
Only love can say.

Only love can say, only love can do,
Only love can say.

I’m say-yay-yaved by,
I’m saved by, by,
Nothing you can do, nothing you can say,
Only love can say